Chris Muetterties said:
At BNI we have what's called "dance cards"
This when you meet one of you BNI partners and go out for lunch and or coffee and get more in depth. Lots of times we meet at another's shop or office. I just met our contractor at his job site and got a tour.
The Dance Card is after they are members and is a great way to better know them and their business. But, it all starts with the MEMBERSHIP COMMITTEE. The membership committee consists of 3-5 members and is headed by the VP. These 3-5 members take in the applications and process them (call on and visit references, and then vote). If they feel an applicant is worth membership, then you are in. If not, move on.
It is always advantageous to invite multiple businesses in the same category. Then you can pick the cream of the crop.
Another way if you know if someone is worth it (besides meeting with them and also using their services yourself) is listening to the members give testimonials about other members.
There are several checks and balances with BNI that make it successful for all.
PS - I dont refer everyone in my group. There are relationships I have made b4 BNI, and I will not turn my back on someone who has already served me well (in Italian, this is called LOYALTY).