Discussion in 'Lets talk Business!' started by T Monahan, Feb 26, 2018.
I don't agree
Where did he go? His post disappeared.
I agree with Larry.. .
I thought I had attention efficiency syndrome, until my Dad showed me his belt! My mom was good at using motherly guilt. Lol.
I should have used a belt, but after a hard day at work, I perfected to hug my kids instead of disciplining them. This may have been a mistake-- now I see that I may have to employ tough love tactics to get my 30 year old son to grow up!
Don't beat yourself up John - Life is too precious, love them for who they are, encourage them to be the best "insert name" they can. At age 30 he knows what he wants, it just may not be what you want for him. Everyone has options some take advantage of them and some don't. As that famous philosopher Rodney K from the streets of LA once said: "Can't we just all get a long?" I'm going through it now with my oldest! Loves me but just starting to see signs that he respects me.
It's not? From my perspective it sure seems to be.
You’ve been hanging around Satan too long
but only two instances of corporal punishment with my kids.
One at 7 when I caught my son in a bold faced lie ...and gave him every opportunity to fess up
and once when my daughter was 5 or 6 and tried to stuff the cat in the microwave
they've both grown up adults now
One's a professional con man and the other is a serial killer...
hmmm.....maybe I shudda wupped 'em more .
seriously, once a kid reaches somewhere between 13 and 15, you're done.
cause other than restricting them if they're still in the home, not a hell of a lot you can do when/if they don't want to go along with the program
John was 16 (?) when he thought he was man enough to tell me he didn't have to go along with my program .
I was pretty calm about it and said,
"well son, what you're telling me is you're a full grown man now ready to move out on your own.
That's what you'll have to do, because this is my home and my rules"
he knew I was serious (I was) , and decided my program wasn't "all that bad"
with adult children "tough love" means not enabling them to make poor choices.
The most common enabling is in the form of $ub$idizing lack of personal responsibility and/or allowing/tolerating, minimizing or rationalizing their personally destructive behavior
Truth is, very, VERY few people change unless/until they're forced too and/or have no other options
"enabling = options"
Thank you for caring enough to write all that---
Love your words of wisdom.
I should note though, just because I know what needs done, doesn't mean I'm any better or worse than anyone else when it comes to doing it
I didn't realize John (vegie) was your son.
Considering all, you done a good Job Capi