why do employees always have a bunch of drama at home?

juniorc82

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I have been going through the process of restaffing after losing some dead weight. I have went through a couple of assistants and it never fails, just when I think I have someone good the drama in their personal life comes to center stage. Its usualy an idiot spouse, girlfriend,or some other relative. I lost one guy because he felt that it was unreasonble to limit personal calls at work( it was 2:30 am on a vct job and he had been on the phone all night). What the hell are you talking about at 230 in the freakin morning? and if you know you have money problems why isnt your family more respectfull of you being at work? Just one example. Another example is I have noticed that people who already dont have a pot to piss in are more likely to let one or more of their deadbeat relatives come live with them to "get on their feet", and then are mystified when their life gets turned upside down with drama. II could go on and on and on. I just dont understand why people are so incapable of taking control of their lives and cutting the bs. In a nut shell I dont do drama
 
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Everyone has drama at home.. what matters more is how you lead them through it when it comes to their job. Be more clear on your companies policy regarding issue you are continually having with your employees.
 

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This is the downside of dealing with humans. I personally don't like all the drama. This is why I work alone and invest in machines to help me in my business. Machines are very predictable. People suck.
 

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Every one gets drama/ crap thrown their way.

The way they/you deal with it is what matters.
 

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Hire men that have retired "early" in their late 50's and early 60's. They don't have the drama in their lives, they have completed successful careers and don't carry cell phones !gotcha!
 

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In 2005 I had a tech with a jealous girlfriend, she showed up a the office and cussed him out because she thought the secretary "sounded cute" and she thought they were having an affair.

The day he started, I had given him a company phone, but he wouldn't give her the number because he didn't want to burn up my minutes, his excuse to her, even though it was an unlimited plan. So, she called for him several times a day and wanted the secretary to get him to call her, but he didn't bother because he didn't want to talk to her and deal with her "crap" as he put it.

He had only been working for me for two days. :|


They finally broke up this year, turns out, the crazy jealous girlfriend of my former tech was the one fooling around. He found out about it, right after he bought a house with her. They have two kids.
 

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People don't have the same work ethic as there used to be. Also, thanks to Oprah and Springer, a lot of people have no shame in airing their problems to anyone that will listen. Cell phones are great tools but I warn someone once about texting on the job. Personal calls can be made between jobs. If I catch someone driving while using the phone they get a written warning and a firing if caught again.
 
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juniorc82 said:
I have been going through the process of restaffing after losing some dead weight. I have went through a couple of assistants and it never fails, just when I think I have someone good the drama in their personal life comes to center stage. Its usualy an idiot spouse, girlfriend,or some other relative. I lost one guy because he felt that it was unreasonble to limit personal calls at work( it was 2:30 am on a vct job and he had been on the phone all night). What the hell are you talking about at 230 in the freakin morning? and if you know you have money problems why isnt your family more respectfull of you being at work? Just one example. Another example is I have noticed that people who already dont have a pot to piss in are more likely to let one or more of their deadbeat relatives come live with them to "get on their feet", and then are mystified when their life gets turned upside down with drama. II could go on and on and on. I just dont understand why people are so incapable of taking control of their lives and cutting the bs. In a nut shell I dont do drama

Geeze Junior, starting to sound a bit right wing....definitely not the Obama left mantra.
 

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ronbeatty said:
Hire men that have retired "early" in their late 50's and early 60's. They don't have the drama in their lives, they have completed successful careers and don't carry cell phones !gotcha!


Don't imagine they work full time either :roll:


..l.T.A.
 

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Steve in Omaha said:
juniorc82 said:
I have been going through the process of restaffing after losing some dead weight. I have went through a couple of assistants and it never fails, just when I think I have someone good the drama in their personal life comes to center stage. Its usualy an idiot spouse, girlfriend,or some other relative. I lost one guy because he felt that it was unreasonble to limit personal calls at work( it was 2:30 am on a vct job and he had been on the phone all night). What the hell are you talking about at 230 in the freakin morning? and if you know you have money problems why isnt your family more respectfull of you being at work? Just one example. Another example is I have noticed that people who already dont have a pot to piss in are more likely to let one or more of their deadbeat relatives come live with them to "get on their feet", and then are mystified when their life gets turned upside down with drama. II could go on and on and on. I just dont understand why people are so incapable of taking control of their lives and cutting the bs. In a nut shell I dont do drama

Geeze Junior, starting to sound a bit right wing....definitely not the Obama left mantra.
Hey steve remember I am white trash from cb ia (aka council tuckey) we voted for the casinos to come on over while you nebraskans wanted to be conservative and keep them out of omaha lol. I am a bit liberal but I never felt sorry for someone who refuses to give an effort or at least try and get it together. I also think extending unemployement for 2 years was insane. If my grandma a former art teacher at uno or my whole family of union employed laborers reads this post , they will certainly toss me in lake manawa next time I go up to visit :lol:
 

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I remember from my college days learning of a personnel management theory called Hertzberg's Two Factor Theory.

It basically says there are maintenance factors and there are motivational factors involved in successfully managing employees but the things you think will motivate them are not what actually does in most cases. Money for instance ... Hertzberg says money is a maintenance factor (it does not motivate an employee to perform, it simply keeps him from being DEMOTIVATED).

Back when I ran my flooring store, I employed full time cleaners and hired subcontract crews for my flooring installations. I paid my subs a dollar a sq. yard over the going rate and paid my cleaning crew an hourly rate well above minimum wage plus a commission. The all made fairly good money ... much more than my competitors.

I still had all the drama and crappy installations.

People who are attracted to our line of work are under-educated and mostly come from homes and environments that do not support responsible behavior and a good work ethic. It used to be that poor and disadvantaged people had strong work ethics, good moral character and were willing to work their way ahead in life. It is simply not that way anymore. In fact, I read an piece in the Wall Street Journal the other day saying that current research indicates that the characteristics we associated with the "working classes" in the days of the great depression and WWII (thrift, good moral character and personal responsibility) are no longer found there. These days it's the upper class people who demonstrate these characteristics. Our society has had a polar shift in our social character.

So, it's harder today to get a hire, train and retain a quality employee from the pool of potential employees we have to choose from.
 

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Marty said:
In fact, I read an piece in the Wall Street Journal the other day.....


:shock: Marty reads the WSJ?

Well, I suppose that's how he keeps up with the trading volume of pork bellies. :lol:
 

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Totally agree. I have just come to interviewing potential employees with complete honesty and discloser. I am a good judge of person and as long as they are presentable, well spoken, and I feel they will be able to converse with our clients then I am happy. We also do full background searches. We have a drug free work place as well as no smoking.

But as you said some just bring there problems to work or are just drama Queens!

We do a 2 week probation period and I generally get a good vibe on how there going to work out or not.
 

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I remember from my college days learning of a personnel management theory called Hertzberg's Two Factor Theory.

It basically says there are maintenance factors and there are motivational factors involved in successfully managing employees but the things you think will motivate them are not what actually does in most cases. Money for instance ... Hertzberg says money is a maintenance factor (it does not motivate an employee to perform, it simply keeps him from being DEMOTIVATED).

Back when I ran my flooring store, I employed full time cleaners and hired subcontract crews for my flooring installations. I paid my subs a dollar a sq. yard over the going rate and paid my cleaning crew an hourly rate well above minimum wage plus a commission. The all made fairly good money ... much more than my competitors.

I still had all the drama and crappy installations.

People who are attracted to our line of work are under-educated and mostly come from homes and environments that do not support responsible behavior and a good work ethic. It used to be that poor and disadvantaged people had strong work ethics, good moral character and were willing to work their way ahead in life. It is simply not that way anymore. In fact, I read an piece in the Wall Street Journal the other day saying that current research indicates that the characteristics we associated with the "working classes" in the days of the great depression and WWII (thrift, good moral character and personal responsibility) are no longer found there. These days it's the upper class people who demonstrate these characteristics. Our society has had a polar shift in our social character.

So, it's harder today to get a hire, train and retain a quality employee from the pool of potential employees we have to choose from.
I remember from my college days learning of a personnel management theory called Hertzberg's Two Factor Theory.

It basically says there are maintenance factors and there are motivational factors involved in successfully managing employees but the things you think will motivate them are not what actually does in most cases. Money for instance ... Hertzberg says money is a maintenance factor (it does not motivate an employee to perform, it simply keeps him from being DEMOTIVATED).

Back when I ran my flooring store, I employed full time cleaners and hired subcontract crews for my flooring installations. I paid my subs a dollar a sq. yard over the going rate and paid my cleaning crew an hourly rate well above minimum wage plus a commission. The all made fairly good money ... much more than my competitors.

I still had all the drama and crappy installations.

People who are attracted to our line of work are under-educated and mostly come from homes and environments that do not support responsible behavior and a good work ethic. It used to be that poor and disadvantaged people had strong work ethics, good moral character and were willing to work their way ahead in life. It is simply not that way anymore. In fact, I read an piece in the Wall Street Journal the other day saying that current research indicates that the characteristics we associated with the "working classes" in the days of the great depression and WWII (thrift, good moral character and personal responsibility) are no longer found there. These days it's the upper class people who demonstrate these characteristics. Our society has had a polar shift in our social character.

So, it's harder today to get a hire, train and retain a quality employee from the pool of potential employees we have to choose from.

Great post Marty. Where did you copy and paste that from? :mrgreen:
 

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The same reason owners do......... Because there is a woman at home telling them that they should make more and do things better.
 

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I would say that they have no more "drama" then anyone else they just choose to air it out in front of everyone. Which is a character trait! Deny them an audience and it will stop.


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My Son text's and said he felt like he was going to puke in front of a customer! He's really a good kid at 17 1/2 .

He gets moody and that was day he wished he didnt get out of bed, cause man was I hot after that.

He hasnt let his emotions get the best of him since.

The customer laughed and said he worked for his Dad as a teenager and could relate. Still that wasnt cool.
 

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Sooooo, you don't think us owners have drama at home? You all must be pretty damn lucky then because I do.

The difference is that I don't deal with it at work. And your employees shouldn't either. I did hire a guy that had severe drama at home once. Gf calling every hour needing something or whining that he wasn't home. Funny thing is that now she can't complain that he isn't home.

Another thing I do so I have less worries about personal time being spent on work time is to pay commision. At least this way I don't worry about wasted time because of personal calls and texts. As long as work is being done in a timely manner so the company isn't affected I dont care.
 

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ronbeatty said:
Hire men that have retired "early" in their late 50's and early 60's. They don't have the drama in their lives, they have completed successful careers and don't carry cell phones !gotcha!

They will work full time gladly because their wives are going through menopause!

Anything to get out of the house!

Take care,
Lisa
 

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truckmount girl said:
ronbeatty said:
Hire men that have retired "early" in their late 50's and early 60's. They don't have the drama in their lives, they have completed successful careers and don't carry cell phones !gotcha!

They will work full time gladly because their wives are going through menopause!

Anything to get out of the house!

Take care,
Lisa

well, Love, if "I" had a "successful career" that i retired from, the last thing I'd want to do is slog a wand all day full time

think I'd rather work in a club house pro shop, or sports store, or gun shop ...or even be a wAl-mArt greeter....

I could be wrong...but don't think there'd be a large pool of late 50s/early 60s "successful career" retied folks to choose from


..l.T.A.
 

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People that can’t manage their personal lives generally don’t do much better at work.
 

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