Heat set of carpet is much higher than 250 degree. Also, I very much doubt that it would be 250 at the carpet. Did you actually ever measure it at the carpet?
Metal being exposed to heat will heat up and the heat will build, so the metal will get hotter. But with a smooth metal wand and very little movement per minute (unlike a rotary) I doubt the wands metal will cause distortion.
Yes, too much pressure will cause distortion and the hotter the fiber gets the easier it will be for the too high pressure to do more damage. The wet heat alone won't do it. Take a steamer and see if it will distort the carpet pile.
Could also be a worn out jet that is not fanning the water as well, thus creating even a stronger impact.
Of course, I respectfully agree to disagree. Only you're wrong