I don't want a pissing match either, but there are things that are not nor should be open to debate. And there is nothing to be open minded about in this case. It has been proven in field testing and inspection(CTIOA field reports back this up) that all changes of plane should be caulked. And in the next revision of ANSI 108.10 it will be included as standard from what I understand. Which means it will be code. No debate.
As a professional, I do not let the customer dictate my profession to me. That is they don't get to choose right or wrong, or I lose credibility as a pro in my field.
ANSI 108.10 = Standards (building code) for installation of ceramic tile.
CTIOA = Ceramic Tile Institute of America, responsible for research and field reporting to get the standards added to the above.
I also have grout in my showers in changes of plane cause the installers were "open minded", it is all cracked in a 3 year old install. I have done hundreds of shower repairs and rebuilds, 99% have had cracked grout in transition areas where most lead to water damage in the substrate.
I love the dirty grout board, but most are not installers and have no idea of proper install techniques. The debates are those VS the pro installers on there. Those who let the customer decide on proper install technique.